Trust….. Trust the glue that hold any kind of relationship(s), for one simple reason that, human beings are complicated and are in a race of life to understand themselves let alone understand someone else. But even in the quest of knowing self, we need relationships, with our parent, Co workers, employers, employees, children, friends, lovers and the list is endless.
From the moment you wake up to the moment you sleep, you are going to be involved in some kind of a relationship.
You wake up and you have a relationship with your alarm clock or phone TRUSTING that it is going to alert you to wake up, you drive or take a bus to work TRUSTING that the driver, the car and the bus driver and the people on the road are going to get you to where you are going, TRUSTING that the relationships at work will be cooperative….
What trust does is code a statement on our mind that no matter how complicated you are I AM GOING TO HOLD YOU ON YOUR WORD that WHATEVER YOU SAID YOU WILL HONOR and therefore I can continue living my life and you will continue living your life without FEAR of the other party breaking their word and breaking trust.
What trust does is, it secures our place in the past, in the present and it makes us look forward with optimism to the future.
Take a romantic relationship for example. When a couple’s relationship is established on trust, it makes their past experiences memorable, it makes their present experience worthwhile and inspire commitment and it makes them look towards the future, planning for a family, investments, travel and the future looks like a good place to be in.
But when trust is broken either because of infidelity, be it physical, emotional and even mental, our whole world view is broken down. The experiences of the future, present and the optimism of the future is whole broken down. And you start thinking that all the past experience was a lie, “who are you then? I thought I knew you, I identified with you, so if all that was a lie, then, who am I?” it makes you come to the reality that you were not special after all and that you are disposable after all. The present experience is shuttered and the future dreams are all masquerading as a huge fake. Not only that, broken trust makes your life break down, and you doubt your experience and your whole life in general because a relationship that made your whole life worthwhile is now all broken down to pieces.
It is a tough thing to go through, think about broken trust in business, at work and one that we are all aware about is, politics and religion. It breaks down our whole being. It makes us live like the world is this huge ball of rejection and you have to live a cautious life and no body is to be trusted. It makes us not achieve our full potential because we shy away from relationships which is an integral part of many of our successes.
Brings me to conclude that we all need a high sense of self awareness, that will bring us to a high sense of intuition and wisdom, to be able to form relationships with honorable people who are able to honor their words, and to whom we would honor our words with, without the fear of double crossing in the background.
So help us God.
Inspired by Dr Jordan Peterson.
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